There are way too many fads that start up in a new year.
Gym memberships soar and we get lost in the pure thrill of thinking ‘new year, new you’ crazes. Enthusiasm is needed especially at the start of change but is mostly dropped by week two.
This early boost of energy makes us feel good at the start but then we quickly move to ‘whats the point’ and give up.
Why do you ask? Usually this happens when you haven’t clarified the why. The why comes from a set of values that drives change. So ask the first is asking yourself why you want to hit the gym and get healthy.
What does healthy look like? What value do you get out of it? Whats the appeal? What does the overall value of being healthy mean? How far away is this value for you?
In terms of being healthy, how far away are you from this value? Does it feel like your living with this value in focus or is way out of focus with a lot of work needed?
This doesn’t mean that your failing, it may just mean that your focusing on the value of family or being successful in your career. Sometimes we need purely shift focus on the values we have paid less attention to recently.
Think of it this way, all our energy ads up to one bucket of water. We can only separate the water into a number of other buckets and that is it no more water.
We can pour 100% into something or separate our energy into a number of things and spread ourselves thin.
What is in balance and what is out of balance? What feels like is going along well and may only need some tweeking and what needs an overhaul or construction or to feel more inline to whats important.
This is not someone else’s values, this is your values.
You may have broad values that shape your life but then also have work values or family values with more specific detail that needs assessing.
Overall, how are your values right now before 2019? Our team at Safe Place Therapy is here to support you towards better connection with your valued life. Keep reading our articles about mental health and reach today for support.